Poor Andrew. He always bears the brunt of my worst parenting moments. With him being the oldest, I’m always just figuring things out. Transitioning to a new stage is the worst for me, it always makes me so frustrated. Then, with the girls, each new stage seems easier than it was with Andrew.
So, this new stage has got me stumped. What do you do when your child wants to be independent, but is always overstepping the boundary? I can’t trust Andrew to be out of my sight for more than a few minutes.
Let me give you a few examples: going past the limits of where they can go in the front yard when I’m not there, sneaking a bag of candy and hiding and eating it, playing with water in the bathroom, stealing my piece of candy off the counter (after I had let them eat like five pieces each). And I have to repeat simple requests at least three times and resort to a harsher voice for something as simple as please come to the table for dinner.
Am I being overly demanding here? Maybe these are petty issues, but having to correct them all the time and basically threated them with punishment for every. little. thing. makes me feel like I am mad at them all day. I want to let them play outside or even upstairs by themselves, since they play together well, but every time I do, something gets eaten or broken or overly messy or overly dangerous.
Yesterday we had a great day, but I worked hard to keep them doing structured activities, and therefore dedicated all my time to keeping them in my sight and happy. I didn’t get anything else done. I need some time for other things…and I’m not even talking about some time for myself. I need some time for things the whole family needs like time to make dinner, or time to plan a grocery list, or time to set a doctor appointment.
I’ll stop the rambling now, but I really would appreciate any input. Especially from anyone who has been there, done that.